You know, the last year or two (especially now that I'm over 50) I have had some clarity over the past decades of my life. I have decided that there were a few things I would have done differently. Let's talk about some of them. Maybe you'll consider talking them over with kids/grandkids, helping them gain insight perhaps, rather than learning it the “hard way,” going through unnecessary trials and pain. So, here goes!
Would have spent more time with aunts, uncles and cousins, enriching my life with improved family relationships—rather than trying to “catch up” on relationships from behind later in life.
Wouldn't have taken myself so seriously so much of the time! I mean, you just make yourself miserable —and sometimes cause stress to those you're close to. Of course, as you know, some people need to take themselves MORE seriously out of the gate.
Would have TAKEN the advice to not worry about what others thought of me.
I would have been more forgiving of myself AND others.
Would have, if I had known at the time, tried to learn some useful foreign language before adulthood, when it's harder to grasp and learn a language. Our world continues to get smaller and smaller—we need to interact with those of other countries and cultures.
I would have tried to just enjoy high school more—included more extracurricular activities and sports, rather than be so uptight about getting good grades, and learning—preparing for college, etc.
Would have chosen a college major and stuck to it, if at all possible, the very first year there.
Wouldn't have been so afraid of failure; would have realized that almost every type of mistake can be corrected, and learned from.
But I guess I did the best I could at the time with the maturity level I had. I am not really looking back with too much regret, or living in “if only.” That's as destructive as making poor decisions at the time during my youth.
Some of this kind of reasoning even makes me wonder too, what will I, in say 5 years, look back and wish I had done differently today?! Something to really ponder, and make changes from, gaining insight for living better and happier.